No one ever told me that once you graduate college and
become a real adult life can get hard, and quick.
I hate to say I lived a privileged life but I definitely didn’t have it hard, and I
was am lucky to have a very supporting family who are always there for me. I had my challenges with adversity through elementary, middle and high school which were all exacerbated with the normal social growth and awareness of being a female. When I went to College & Physical Therapy School I encountered a whole other level of challenges and hurdles which were accompanied with subsequent freak-outs and stressors.
NOW that I am an “Adult” I have learned that the challenges and adversities I faced back in school are just the stepping stones to the ones that will be faced in the future. I never would have imagined all the adult decisions I would have to make in the first year since graduating PT school.
From work decisions, family decisions and decisions which could impact not only my life but the lives of others I truly never imagined that adulthood would be so hard.
In my face-offs with these challenges I have found a few strategies which work best for me to overcome the challenges and find higher ground without succumbing to a bottle of wine and online shopping.
1. Internalize It… & Stress A Little
I always take the information that could be a potential stressor, life changer or adversity and generally stress a little about it. I probably stress an unhealthy amount but through stressing I am able to internalize the facts and determine the best course of action. Whether that results in me figuring it out on my own, or the more common option of…
2. Talking it out with someone I trust
This used to always be my dad, first and foremost if I had a problem, stressor or challenge I would call my dad. Now I call Brent or talk to him when I get home, and then typically I will still call my dad. YEP! I am a daddy’s girl, its true and I admit it whole-heartedly. I also know that I am honored with a dad who has a lot of knowledge and advice on most every situation. I find that talking it out helps reaffirm what I already know and think and presents new thoughts I hadn’t come up with. It also always helps me to…
3. Find the Positives
Looking at the bigger picture helps me come back to the real world (Good Bye Allison Land, it was nice seeing you again) and realize that even though I feel like things are falling apart around me I still have a lot of positive things to be thankful for. I truly believe that with every negative situation comes multiple positive blessings, while they may be small little things in comparison to the bigger negative they are something to hold on to when times are tough and things are challenging. These positives help motivate me to overcome this challenge and face that adversity face-to-face.
4. Figure Out The Optimal Solution
While this is the “last” step I often come to this solution in the beginning when faced initially with the challenge at hand. Even though I may have a “solution” there is still work to be done, however if you do not come up with a plan or optimal solution the ability to achieve and overcome the adversity you’re faced with will become increasingly challenging. A vague but definite solution is MY optimal solution.
5. Make Lemonade?
Ok so I realize its lame but like I said the having the solution does not mean a resolution of the challenge. You very well may need to put in a lot of work, face more challenges and strike out prior to finding the best way to cut the lemon and make lemonade. I know its hard, I am definitely a quick fix person and I know that I live in a quick-fix society but when faced with these challenges you are best to work HARD and then be patient.
Adversity is hard and makes already stressful life even more stressful, but with some strategy, surrounding yourself with love and support you will be able to overcome all things that are put in your path.
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